Here are some suggestions that may minimize your discomfort, and avoid potential problems.
How often you express should be determined by your comfort level. Always go as long as you can before pumping (or hand expressing) and take out as little milk as possible. If you have been pumping every 3 hours, start out by pumping every 4 hours, then every 6, then every 8, then every 12, etc. If you have been pumping 6 ounces at each session, pump 4 ounces, then 3, then 2, etc. By gradually expressing less milk less and less often your supply will decrease without causing physical problems for you.
The amount of time it takes for your milk to dry up depends on how full a supply you have built up. If you have very little milk when you wean, it may be possible to quit cold turkey with a minimum of discomfort. For most mothers, a more gradual approach is recommended. If you have a full supply when you wean, and you taper off gradually, you should be able to stop expressing completely within 2-3 weeks, and often sooner. It is normal for you to be able to express a few drops of milk or have a little leaking for weeks or months after you stop nursing.
If you have lost a baby, and would like to donate the milk you express during this time, or any you might have frozen, you can contact one of the milk banks around the country. They provide milk for sick or premature infants whose mothers are unable to provide milk for them.
Donors are volunteers, and are not paid for their milk. Milk banks pay for tests to make sure that the donors are healthy, and processing and shipping of milk to the bank. There are only 11 milk banks in the US, so this option isn’t available to all mothers. In order to obtain human milk from a milk bank, moms need a prescription from their doctor. Insurance may or may not cover the cost, which is around $5.00 per ounce, plus shipping fees. For more information, visit the website for the Human Milk Banking Association of North America (HMBANA) for a list of milk banks in your area : http://www.hmbana.org/.
For information about the controversial topic of milk sharing and options other than milk banks, visit these sites: Eats On Feets and Human Milk 4 Human Babies.
Facebook and the internet offer many resources for moms who have lost their babies. Two of the best are ‘Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss’, and ‘Compassionate Friends’.
There is no perfect way to deal with the loss of a child. Every parent grieves in their own way. Here’s an article about a mom whose baby boy was born sleeping at 34 weeks. She has found a beautiful way to cope with saying goodbye to Jude by donating her breast milk to save other babies.
A grieving mother once wrote: “I have lost my child and a hole has been ripped in the universe. Neither I, nor the universe can be the same. We shall mourn our losses together.”
This will be the most devastating thing you will ever experience. I encourage you to seek support from others who have experienced the same loss.
Anne Smith, IBCLC
Breastfeeding Basics
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